Don’t Be Self-righteous

No one is perfect; we are all sinners in one way or another

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God

(Romans 3:23 ESV)

If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

(1 John 1:8 ESV)

Living a moral life means taking responsibility for controlling our own behavior. If we say or even when we think we are better than people we consider to be “sinners,” we are guilty of the sin of self-righteousness.

It is not our right to look down on, criticize, judge, condemn, or try to control other people. Judgment is to be left to God. Jesus said,

“Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

Matthew 7:1-5 ESV

Jesus simply teaches that in order to pass righteous judgment on another, we ought to first examine ourselves. Let us remove the plank in our eye. Then, and only then, can we see clearly to remove the speck in our brother’s eye.

It’s concerned with the attitude of a man, not a complete absence of our judgment.


Today reflection

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

Metaphysics – Aristotle (384 – 322 BC)

Control and play around the possibility of expanding the ideas of what the thought could be and could not.

Seeing the strength and weakness of that thought and meditate it.

Filtering out. See what is correct from wrong, what is right and what is not.

And then it will engrave the thought in your life.

You are living your life for you not for other.

Marriage is a reflection of the gospel

The reason that marriage is so painful and yet wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel – which is painful and wonderful at once.

The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.

By Timothy Keller

This is the only kind of relationship that will really transform us.

The gospel can fill our hearts with God’s love so that you can handle it when your spouse fails to love you as he or she should.

That frees us to see our spouse’s sins and flaws to the bottom – and speak of them – and yet still love and accept our spouse fully.

Love without truth is sentimentality, it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws.

Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.

God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditioned commitment to us.

The merciful commitment strengthens us to see the truth about ourselves and repent. The conviction and repentance moves us to cling to and rest in God’s mercy and grace.

Credited to my friend, Nathanael. Someone who I think has the thoughtful perspective that deep and refreshing.


You just do not know what God will provide in your life. What plan and path He will lay on your life.

Today is the best moment.

An angel named k comes to rescue.

There is nothing more you can ask. We are so grateful. God is really good.

You were staying and standing in the tunnel for sometime though you can see the slightest light in the tunnel but you only be able move slowly as your time is running out.

Suddenly the light in tunnel seems to be the brightest light you would ever see in your life and the flow of the fresh air is a huge relief is like giving you another breath of life.

Someone just pull you out of cold and dimmed tunnel to the warm and bright world.

A beautiful world of hopes, dreams and possibilities.

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.

This verse as my life-verse shows its strength and shine through the strongest in this moment.

Growing Up!

Yesterday was the first time I discovered the strength of all his muscle.

He insisted to buy the balloon in the stationary shop near our house.
He pointed it out, he wanted that.

As I tried to carry him up to just few doors for our dinner. He was like a hulk, strong, grinding his teeth and show to me, its meant business! I WANT THAT BALLOON!

That was the first!
That was quite a challenge for me to try to explain to him. ” We gonna first, that we do not need it right now. We gonna go for dinner first. but he insisted” .

I passed him to her mom as last resort, Because it usually work, his mom is more compassionate to explain, can handle him and explain better.

After sometime waiting in the Thai restaurant. I have eaten some portion of my food. I was thinking, his mom charm still work.

To my surprised, its not!

Though he is more calm and content. He did not want to eat his food and slowly but surely start crying for that balloon again. He insisted he wants it!

It’s noisy and we are afraid to disturb other dinners. We decided to ask the waiter to pack the food for takeaway. <<< wow, that was the first time happen.

He is a big boy now. He knows what he wants, insisting on what he wants, He got the strength now and his muscle is growing up big, his trick to avoid to be carried is growing up now.

Soon.. pretty soon..
He will decided almost half of what he wants, what he doesn’t want.

We hope to guide him the right ones. Though sometimes he still need to make mistakes to learn something.

Child on a Journey


(kawaii ko niwa tabi o saseyo)

Send the beloved child on a journey.

Japanese Proverb

The proverb means without ever protecting them, let them do the things they can achieve.

Experiencing the unexpected, solving the challenges unprepared will make them think smartly, decisively and fast.

Like the journey to the unknown forest, you have prepared everything you know, but thing you face is uncertainty and of course you will be challenged to pass through the forest.


One day, all our kid will grow and there is a time they need to be ready to walk into this forest by themselves. Its time to let them go. I will definitely will.

It will always need the first step until you make the path yourself and you will begin to explore a new different route because you have familiar with the path you always pass, you have passed it for so many years.

You are out of your comfort zone again. You will grow even more.

This year (2018) our Family Verse

All scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.

That the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.

2 Timothy 3:16-17 (ESV)

This letter was written by Paul to Timothy. The scriptures in view here are the Old Testament. That is what the Jewish family of Timothy, Lois, and Eunice knew, believed, and loved. But there are really good reasons for treating the New Testament as having the same God-breathed authority too.

Scripture is written inspired by God. For what we have learned and believed, we stay strong and firmly into it.

We have access to knowledge that is unshakeably true and infinitely valuable

So therefore, It’s the one way ticket for righteousness. To teach us, correct what we have done wrong, take a step back and our from our wronged track and pointed to the right way, and an ever continuously practicing what we have learned from Bible to grow in righteousness.

In the hands of Holy Spirit, has the power to make us the kind of people who can discern and do the good that need to be done.

“Equipped for every good work.” Transformed, empowered, enabled, to do the good that needs to be done.

The God-breathed Bible aims to make us godly — to make us doers of good in this world — don’t miss that!

The doctrines of the Bible are designed to produces deeds — good deeds. And they do it by teaching, and that teaching has three sequential effects.: reproof, correction, and training in righteousness.

If the Scripture is the key to equipping you for that godliness, then are you giving as much care to the godliness of your life as you are to the physical health of your life?.

Feeding your self and other should be a joyful task.

Have an inspired journey in the hand of God’s book!