Ax.i.om

 

A powerful book touch about leadership. every leader should have this book as their personal grow to be better in digesting the real leadership role.

brief foreword by Henry Cloud, Ph.D
the principles of axiom are simple and yet profound, simply work.

3 primary leadership responsibilities.
1st. first and foremost, is to cause vision and mission to have tangible result in real world. without real difference made in real people’s lives, a vision is relegated to a dream. a mission become a series of wishes posted on the wall.

a great leader brings achievement of result that people that being served can actually count, measure and feel.

2nd. second. a leader responsible for the experience of his followers. a sound leader could lifting the people experience, bring out the best of his people, equiped them with what they could not think they could do and become somebody they could barely think of before.

great leader grow not just result but people too.

3rd. third. toughest of all. is self-leadership. a commitment and constant improvement, learn to do homework so that weary and unsteadiness could be kept at the bay.

leader should not neglected to get better.

Bill will be as both trainer and friend.

Language matters.
putting the right word could capture and deliver the right message to the people.

often time, leader have a mindset that as long as people get it, it is done. often time never think of how powerful the right word or sentence are.

the word will begin to live! it become memorable and powerful. the very best leader wrestle with the word until they are able to communicate their idea in a way that capture people imagination, catalyzed action and lifts spirit.

a simple example was given, like compassionate. instead of just say, “be compassionate”, (big yawn) after alteration, they say it in different way, “unleash unprecedented amount of compassionate into our broken world

it was just two word that make a different, it makes people excited about it, instinctually they understand what it’s meant and instantly people want to know more.

its cool!

as my own, unconsciously i am doing it right now (learning to put the right word) in everyday in my life, speak or writing such as for every post i wrote, i did stress out the point for reader to be able to notice it or to be easily memorized, like making it bold or italic. words that i want reader to stamp on their mind and stay there. i want to learn to get better.

one day, i imagine, standing in front of thousand of people and speak. without a nerve, i think i can deliver what i want, i knew i could.

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What to do with your lips

do you think communication is an easy thing? as we talk, as we listen, as we observe, as we opinion, as we touch, as we react, as we moves, as we gesture, as we sign, as we smile and as we do many things to communicate.

it is not such a simple thing but complicated yet it involve not only listening but understanding and proper responding.

for one of the most used common thing we do in communication is talking, but talking too much does not mean we communicate well, does not mean our message is delivered well, does not mean other people understand about it.

in our social life, we communicate pretty much connected and sometime with the best friend of ours when we thought we have a really good chemistry and know them really well. we still have a clash or misunderstanding. its normal, as we learn, we grow.

two interest things, there are still room for improvement in our communication and we are always learning about them through-out our life.

it a matter of our heart.

as we speak what we thought, we speak what we feel.

the good man brings out the good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. (Luke 6:45)

sometimes anger bring us down, put us in a situation we do not want to commit but we did.

for most of our time, we still learn about anger management, learning to control our thought because we love people around us, we want them to know our opinions but in the same time we do not want to hurt them.

we are who we are for most of the time, not when we have an anger, because we are influenced by awful situation and it build up our defensive shield to protect us from disappointment.

for lips are merely the messenger of our heart. it flows what inside us. though our upbringing and personality are the factor. if our word are selfish and loving. it is because we are selfish and loving.

as christian, we can changed by seeking God’s help and with holy spirit working in us can help us to will and act according to His purpose.

invite the holy spirit to change our hearts, our speech will be characterised by love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.

ear is the most important tool. we learn to grow in our listening, grow in our understanding. but for the most of important one is to listen carefully and get what they are trying to say, the underlying concern of the message.

as we always know that we were given two ear to listen more than we speak, and what we are going to say next is pretty important.

beside, listening is an expression of humility and concern for other. we learn to care of what they feel and think and not just assume that we already know.

good communication need an effort. for both have to be willing working together to have a clear communication. it something that we all have to work it out and planned. it should be casual and relax and natural part in relationship.

and no conflict does not equal good communication. we should not avoid conflict but how we could walk through it, learn about to resolve it in a way that best for both.

with the guideline from God and asking His help in solving the conflict humbly and lovingly. so we could honour God in a way we are doing it.

few tips from the book which i guess could help us to understand more about the art of communication.

a. expressing feeling without accusing. we learn and control out wording to be more about our feeling without trying to blame and accuse the other one. being it is their faults.

b. choose word, expressions and tone of voice that are kind and gentle. every time when we want to speak our opinions, trying to be calm and choose the tone, word that was not pointing-sharp and expression that respect other.

c. do not distort, stretch out the truth. we have a tendencies to add more things inside one simple things which actually become so complicated and untruth because of the distortion we added.

d. give actual and specific example. what was actually happening relate to the example that appropriate.

e. commit our selves to seek the solution instead of just to airing our grievance.

every problem has a solution to be right, as it is arise from one reason too. committing our selves to solve it will bring a mutual understanding for both. preventing unsolved thing to be told again in a future.

f. refuse to indulge in bitterness, anger, withdrawal or argument. conflict happen is normal and being mad or have bitterness about it is a normal thing. what is point is that we should not indulge, stay in bitterness and enjoy doing it.

In your anger do not sin“: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, (Ephesians 4:26 NIV)

g. do not hesitate to acknowledge your mistake and failure and be quick to forgive other. be mature and admit the mistake we did if it is ours and learn to forgive someone quickly.

i was struggling in this later part, before you know it was so hurt. it hard to forgive at first and it takes years for me for forgive when finally i met the person. i feel nothing really i should mad at. i thought if only i met earlier it would be better.

h. keep asking when you do not understand and get the mutual understanding. as simple as you want to get the idea of the messages that is delivering to you.

i. train our mouth and heart until we can say the right thing at the right time in the right way for the right reason.

motive is more important than technique. we have the right motive in the way we speak, thinking of pleasing God. He wants definitely that we have a sincere love, serve other, to build up, encourage and benefit them.

but only what is helpful for building other up according to their needs, that is may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)

and pray that every time we speak, we could speak with the right motive.

need to guard.

guard our selves for do not promise something that we do not have in relationship yet. sometime such a level of confident is so high. it could bring both of you to forget about present moment and imagine too much the possibility of unknown future.

we have to be very careful that the words we say and the way we say them do not communicate more than we mean.

be courageous.

a honest answer is like a kiss on the lips (proverbs 24:26)

it is sometime we are afraid to let people see what we are, being our selves, honest and authentic about what our own opinion.

summary from the book that i am reading, written by Joshua Harris

Characteristic of Worships

Purpose Driven Life

Chapter 13 – Worship that pleases God

God wants all of you. He doesn’t want part of your life but He asked for all your heart, mind, soul and strength. there are commitment and obedient.

in worshiping God, there is no right or wrong way to worship. in Bible say “Let us be grateful and worship God in a way that will please him

there are four characteristics that please God.

Our worship is accurate.
worship must be based in the truth of scripture not our opinion of God.

it is not from nowhere but from the word of God.

Our worship is authentic.
Worship in spirit, our spirit was designed to communicate with Him. “Love your heart and soul” — it means our worship must be genuine and heartfelt.

it is not a matter of saying the right word, but mean what you say. We can worship God imperfectly but we can not worship him insincerely.

many of us worship God by the style that many people do, stuck in a so called worship rut. we follow majority people do. God does not see it that way. He wants us to be honest with our self. Do just we would like to do to worship Him.

If God intentionally made us all different, why should everyone be expected to love God in the same way? never He wanted it to be the same.

One thing is certain, You don’t bring glory to God by trying to be someone He never intended you to be. God wants you to be your self.

thats the kind of people that father is out looking for, those who are simply and honestly themselves before Him in their worship

Our Worship is thoughtful.
Love God with all your mind..”

You must engage you mind.

it easier to offer clinches in worship instead of making effort to honor God with fresh words and ways.

be specific. if someone approached you and repeated, “i praise you!” ten times, you would probably think, For what? because you would rather received two specific compliments than twenty vague generalities. so would God.

1 Cor 14 concludes, “Everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way

God insists that our worship be understandable to unbeliever when they are present in our worship gathering.

Being sensitive to unbeliever who visit your worship gathering is biblical command.

Our worship is practical.
Offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God — this is your spiritual act of worship

Worship costs us is our self-centerness. you can not exalt God and your self at the same time.

When Jesus said, “Love God with all your strength“. He pointed out that worship takes effort and energy.

a willing to sacrifice.

Matt Redman, a worship leader in England. He show that worship is more than music, he banned all singing and they learned to worship in other way. by end of that time, Matt had written the classic song “Heart of Worship”.

I’ll bring You more than a song,
because the song itself is not what You’ve required.
You search much deeper within
than the way things appear.

You are looking into my heart.

the heart of the master is a matter of the heart.

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Purpose Driven Life

Purpose Driven Life

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.
“What on earth am i here for?”

it has been a while since i read it last time. was given by friend. here is the note from him.

This book is dedicated to you, bro.
May it be useful for you
May the lord bless you richly.
Amen

Blessings,
Nathanael
September 8, 2007

i am going to start to read it again. its a 40-days spiritual journey. but i am gonna read it slowly. cheers.

Day One/
it all starts with God.

“Everything got started in Him and finds its purpose in Him” Colossians 1:16b (Msg)

Andrei Bitov, a Russian novelist, grew up under an atheistic communist regime. But God got his attention one dreary day.

He recalls,”In my twenty-seventh year, while riding the metro on Leningrad (now St. Peterburg) I was overcome with despair so great that life seemed to stop at once, preempting the future entirely, let alone any meaning. Suddenly, all by itself, a phase appeared: Without God life makes no sense. Repeating it in astonishment, I rode the phase up like a moving staircase, got out of the metro and walked into God’s light”

You discover your identity and purpose through a relationship with Jesus Christ.

its not about me but God.

Day Two —– Day Forty

The Paradox of Our Times – 2

Series : Two

We built more computers to hold more information to produce more copy than ever, But we have less communication.

We have become long on quantity, but short in quality.

From the book of Apelles Poh, “Live Well, Love More, Laugh Often”
Essay written by Dr. Bob Moorehead (1995) collection of prayers, homilies, monologues used in his sermons.

Be Authenthic

It’s never been so important to be trustworthy. It’s never been so important to be someone others respect.

It’s never been so important to keep the promises you make to your teammates and
customers.

And it’s never been so essential to be authentic.

I should also add that it’s never been so hard to show authenticity because of all the social pressure to be like everyone else.

Media, our peers, and the world around us pound us relentlessly with messages designed to have us live their values versus our own.

There’s a huge pull to behave like the majority. But leadership really is about closing your ears to the noisy voices of others so you can more clearly hear the mission and call within your self.

Make me think of the words of Dr. Seuss: ” Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

That’s what authenticity is all about.

ONE event, TWO belief system and TWO different results.

Suppose your spouse is late. You believe that the reason s/he Is late is that s/he does not respect your time. In other words, s/he does not respect you. You begin to simmer and when you see him/her, you are not going to be happy.

What if the reason you believe s/he is late is that s/he may have been involved in a car accident (especially after hearing a news report of massive pile-up near his/her workplace). There is no answer from his/her phone. S/he is seldom late. This time you feel worried. Concerned. Your heart races. Finally, you heave a relief seeing him/her from far. S/he is safe. You are happy to see him/her this time (though you also thought of strangling him/her for not answering the phone)

What you thought and believed created two very different sets of feelings and motivated how you behaved.

How powerful is our thought life!

Two similar activating events being filtered by two different belief systems produce two different consequent behaviors as illustrated in the proceeding narrative.

Another example
Two shoes salesmen from two different companies went to a new town to do a market survey, on called up the company and said, “Cancel all the orders. People in this town do not wear shoes.” the other salesmen called his company, “Double the orders! People in this town do not wear shoes, so it is our golden opportunity to be the prime mover.”

Same event, but produces different behaviors and different results. The key lies in our belief system.

A glass can be half empty or half full, depending on our belief system, our perspective. (One smart guy even said, “if the glass is half empty, then use a smaller glass.” Clever)

The Inward Journey of live well, love much, laugh often by Apelles Poh.