Today reflection

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

Metaphysics – Aristotle (384 – 322 BC)

Control and play around the possibility of expanding the ideas of what the thought could be and could not.

Seeing the strength and weakness of that thought and meditate it.

Filtering out. See what is correct from wrong, what is right and what is not.

And then it will engrave the thought in your life.

You are living your life for you not for other.

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Marriage is a reflection of the gospel

The reason that marriage is so painful and yet wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel – which is painful and wonderful at once.

The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.

By Timothy Keller

This is the only kind of relationship that will really transform us.

The gospel can fill our hearts with God’s love so that you can handle it when your spouse fails to love you as he or she should.

That frees us to see our spouse’s sins and flaws to the bottom – and speak of them – and yet still love and accept our spouse fully.

Love without truth is sentimentality, it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws.

Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.

God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditioned commitment to us.

The merciful commitment strengthens us to see the truth about ourselves and repent. The conviction and repentance moves us to cling to and rest in God’s mercy and grace.

Credited to my friend, Nathanael. Someone who I think has the thoughtful perspective that deep and refreshing.

Child on a Journey

かわいいこにはたびをさせよ

(kawaii ko niwa tabi o saseyo)

Send the beloved child on a journey.

Japanese Proverb

The proverb means without ever protecting them, let them do the things they can achieve.

Experiencing the unexpected, solving the challenges unprepared will make them think smartly, decisively and fast.

Like the journey to the unknown forest, you have prepared everything you know, but thing you face is uncertainty and of course you will be challenged to pass through the forest.

Independently.

One day, all our kid will grow and there is a time they need to be ready to walk into this forest by themselves. Its time to let them go. I will definitely will.

It will always need the first step until you make the path yourself and you will begin to explore a new different route because you have familiar with the path you always pass, you have passed it for so many years.

You are out of your comfort zone again. You will grow even more.

Romance

romance
until today, its more than 9 months in our relationship. we realize both of us have the same thought.
as i post this writing, we are in our eleventh month of our relationship.

“Romance is more important than sex”

Sex its self is a gift for marriage couple. In Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

and as a guy i always naughtily think that it will nice to have more after marriage but i do realize and learned from many married couples that talk about it, research on Internet or simply a lesson from a movie, sex is not everything but it’s one of key ingredient in marriage life.

We had been reading few books just to equip, enlarge and identify and teach us. from Boy Meets Girl (courtship book), Love Dare (kind of marriage book that challenge and build your relationship, dare to do something that its not yours but for both) and we are going for new book called Hot Chocolate (like pre-marriage/marriage book).

when we both discuss about our relationship and from book that we are reading together. it brings so much input to us, not only to understand, enlarged our view, we laugh alot too. but some topic is just to hard to discuss too (probably its not the time yet).

it is recommended to read a book together, discuss, share your views.

In a store named “Precious Thought”, as we were searching for new book, we flipped few books. Come to this statement, Romance is more important than sex. We both just nod our head in agreement. Never know we have this kind of thought before but we agree on the spot.

in one fine sunday afternoon, my girl and friend went out for saloon to pamper their self with treatment, as we guys stay at home taking care of baby Ryan. he was all very good, no crying or anything, we try to keep him entertained.

after watching movie, three of us went out for lunch, we started to talk about relationship, struggles that we faced and he shared about what will you expect in marriage life.

one of topic that he brought out was about sex. he asked me, when you get marriage, how many times do you want to have sex? i replied honestly, “depend on mood“. my reason was simple, sex is really about feeling, ready to get excited to explore. then he repeat his sentence look like i don’t get it, “how many times a day?” i smiled and honestly answered, “everyday bro!” and i gave a big big smile.

“See!”, he started to share. Many of us (guys) thinking almost the same thing, but for girl, it’s different. We think too much about sex as girl don’t think the same as we did.

on my own words, Romance is much more on an expression of feeling. not just love alone, its passionate, affections, appreciations, cares, sharing, being creative, be naughty, ideas, brave (courage), point blank (without thinking) acts to make every moment spent together worth while, fill-in, treasuring, enjoying, laugh a lot, fun and cherish just to be by her side.

a heart that fill with a intention to serve, care, love, respect and protect your partner.

her smile for me is worth my day.

Every morning

get up!
Every morning in our life is a beginning of everything.

People put it this way,

A Person Becomes Old When His Mind Is More Occupied by Memories Than Aspirations

by Navin Kulkarni

Get inspired everyday, do your work differently, see it from different perspective instead of let it be.

But first, thanks God for still giving your smelly breath every morning, this is important. Because it’s meant you are still alive and breathing.

be refreshed and start day with a big smile, for whatever obstacles will challenge through out the day, thats does not matter now, put a big smile first and say, “i am ready for this new day and i am going to do better than yesterday!

It does make a lot of significant impacts on your day as you start well in the morning.

get up!

vision of her

sunday, 28 October 2012. at night before praying time together. she prayed by her self first to God, as she close her eyes after it…

. . . a picture of a little girl appear, setting in food court, its a family. the little girl has a good attitude, she is siting by her own on the bench with daddy ready to feed her as she is playing with her legos, how sweet she is. wearing a dress, a dark wavy hair as long as shoulder, fair skin with big loving eyes. so cute.

dad and mom are mature enough but they both still fit, a young couple. is wearing blue jeans with short sleeve shirt while mom with her gray cardigan, dark color tank top, blue jeans and high heel, as sexy she could always be.

at one moment, mom says in awe and smile, “Sayang, it’s a girl!“. Dad just smiles as he is feeding their pretty daughter. a happy contented family in the picture of  her. . .

as excited as we could be about it, this is future. It’s a vision.
note. in faith, looking back again here, some day in future.

i feel right

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i was on my way to futsal court, met friend inside the bus..

and..

i was thinking about you.
i feel right.
you are someone who could hold me stand where should i stand.

for many weaknesses i do have, you tolerate me.
for my naughtiness that sometimes could drive you crazy and mad, you show who you are.

for your honesty, i learn.
for your loves, i care.
for every hug you give, i feel comfort.

through the good, the bad and the ugly.
love you.

note. i got something “in” empty box i gave to you the other day.