The reason that marriage is so painful and yet wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel – which is painful and wonderful at once.
The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.
By Timothy Keller
This is the only kind of relationship that will really transform us.
The gospel can fill our hearts with God’s love so that you can handle it when your spouse fails to love you as he or she should.
That frees us to see our spouse’s sins and flaws to the bottom – and speak of them – and yet still love and accept our spouse fully.
Love without truth is sentimentality, it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws.
Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.
God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditioned commitment to us.
The merciful commitment strengthens us to see the truth about ourselves and repent. The conviction and repentance moves us to cling to and rest in God’s mercy and grace.
Credited to my friend, Nathanael. Someone who I think has the thoughtful perspective that deep and refreshing.