First holiday together

its our first holiday. such as day come very fast. the planned was way beyond few weeks.

simple word to describe it, i love it.

from this pretty short trip, and time we spend together to see the other side of the world without any familiarity we have here. we face challenge and venture it together. so many things we discover about each other. things we could not or probably we will have it later. we had it right there. it was a surprise for both of us but all of whole it was just sweet moments.

let me start with one example.

early in the morning in the hotel.
we had breakfast. i toasted a pair of bread, and spread peanut jam and butter on them, i gave it to her first to taste (as always, simply i want her to have the best one first, muaach.. love you) and i continue toasted another pair as she served me a coffee (as always, she is loving right? yes she is). well, nothing much happening here, as usual we serve each other.

in seconds, the toaster pushed out the pair, she took and spread the peanut jam but one of them felt down to the ground. i picked up and put on the side and toast another one as she started to put some jam on the other bread.

simply said, we had done with our simple breakfast. we about to prepare our selves to go out and here is the thing. so i took the bread that felt down just now with tissue. as we walked up, she signaled me to take it up to the room.

my mind was thinking like, “what is it for to bring it up to the room?” so i consciously looking for the rubbish bin around.  viola! i found one beside the receptionist desk, i said to her. “throw it here ya?” she replied me, “hmm, up to you” with a grind on her face. hahaha… i was puzzled.

on the way up, i asked her what was on my mind and she told me this, “we had dropped it and don’t let the receptionist know about it“, perhaps the bread are limited a pair to one person or something like that.

thinking back, it was funny, how both of us, have different mindset, different intention, and different way to face situation. we laughed a lot when talked about it on taxi on the way to Xi Men Ding.

there are indeed many we discover along the journey. it was fruitful and fun. we open up each other character, it makes me understand her more.

the whole journey was like, the hand-on experience we had together, laugh on our differences, but we enjoy it, simply because differences could only enrich each other, strengthen the weakness, dynamically color the life, grow to understand and appreciate it together.

we will aligned in one mind, but… i think occasionally connected will be great, too often? its predictable. i want her to be her self without changing who she is and me too, will fit comfortably being my self.

walk into this journey together without expect someone we love being what we wanted, but indeed to appreciate and to strengthen who she is and who am i.

can’t wait for the next trip dear.

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Ax.i.om

 

A powerful book touch about leadership. every leader should have this book as their personal grow to be better in digesting the real leadership role.

brief foreword by Henry Cloud, Ph.D
the principles of axiom are simple and yet profound, simply work.

3 primary leadership responsibilities.
1st. first and foremost, is to cause vision and mission to have tangible result in real world. without real difference made in real people’s lives, a vision is relegated to a dream. a mission become a series of wishes posted on the wall.

a great leader brings achievement of result that people that being served can actually count, measure and feel.

2nd. second. a leader responsible for the experience of his followers. a sound leader could lifting the people experience, bring out the best of his people, equiped them with what they could not think they could do and become somebody they could barely think of before.

great leader grow not just result but people too.

3rd. third. toughest of all. is self-leadership. a commitment and constant improvement, learn to do homework so that weary and unsteadiness could be kept at the bay.

leader should not neglected to get better.

Bill will be as both trainer and friend.

Language matters.
putting the right word could capture and deliver the right message to the people.

often time, leader have a mindset that as long as people get it, it is done. often time never think of how powerful the right word or sentence are.

the word will begin to live! it become memorable and powerful. the very best leader wrestle with the word until they are able to communicate their idea in a way that capture people imagination, catalyzed action and lifts spirit.

a simple example was given, like compassionate. instead of just say, “be compassionate”, (big yawn) after alteration, they say it in different way, “unleash unprecedented amount of compassionate into our broken world

it was just two word that make a different, it makes people excited about it, instinctually they understand what it’s meant and instantly people want to know more.

its cool!

as my own, unconsciously i am doing it right now (learning to put the right word) in everyday in my life, speak or writing such as for every post i wrote, i did stress out the point for reader to be able to notice it or to be easily memorized, like making it bold or italic. words that i want reader to stamp on their mind and stay there. i want to learn to get better.

one day, i imagine, standing in front of thousand of people and speak. without a nerve, i think i can deliver what i want, i knew i could.